1. I FEEL ( decribes your feelings, using words that refer to feelings).
2. WHEN ( decribes the specific behavior of concern).
3. BECAUSE ( decribes how the offensive behavior affects you).
4. I WOULD PREFER ( describes what you want)
5. BECAUSE ( decribes how you would feel— using words that refer to feelings).
6. THEN (the consequences for the other person changing).
7. What do you think? ( ask for ther person’s reaction).